Wow. It's been a while since I have had time to post anything here... sorry! I have been thinking about the issues that adult adoptees face. Things like "Do I have any siblings out there somewhere?" or "Are my biological parents still alive?" or "I'm starting to have children of my own - how could they have given me away?" Our adopted kids are in their 30's now (which seems wierd in itself!) and new issues are arising in their lives. Have any of your adopted children's biological parents initiated contact with your kids? (They can when your child turns 18, in most states.) If they do, what will you say to your children ? Will you encourage them to talk to their biological parent, or avoid them, or... ? It can open emotions that you thought were dealt with long ago, for both you and your child. Start thinking about it now, so that if and when it happens, you are not taken by surprise.
I would like to encourage you to give your child the freedom to follow his or her own heart and desires. If they wish to wait for a while to take some time to adjust to the idea of a meeting, then let them. If they do not wish any contact at all, then it is their choice - and if they want to meet their biological parents, please give them your blessing! If it were me (or you) would you not want some questions answered? Would you not be curious? This can be a healing thing for your child, and should not threaten your relationship with them at all. If you want to talk about this more, please contact me! I would love to talk.